I've been doing a lot of thinking and the answer is simply put, I am still young and wet between the ears. In fact, this touches slightly on criticism of masculinity, and the harmful effects of forcing boys to adhere to the gender stereotype. You are amazing, and you must confess that to yourself everyday when you wake up and look in the mirror. Try to put yourself in situations where you will be constantly meeting people, and don't even give a shit whether they see you as awkward or not. You see, I never saw being nice as a decision that needed to be made — I understood it as a state that naturally existed.
Lots of cool people of today got picked on during school or college. Hardly anyone will answer that it is her size four breast. People in general seem to have become far crueler in the way they reject, so it's little or no wonder that you have to have a great deal of confidence in yourself to try to approach someone you like. Shyness in itself isn't an problem, but if a man is so shy that he can't keep a conversation going or his body language and eye contact are closed off, then most women aren't going stick around to coax him out of his shell. There are going to be people who are mean and nasty and will try to cut you down, but most are pretty nice. Women are attracted to the strength in men and turned off by the weakness. Will a shy, quiet guy who has a more introverted personality attract women? Whatever they may think, the appearance is not a major factor in choosing a life partner.
He would hold doors open for her. But if you happen to be shy and are using this as an excuse for your inability to find companionship then go right ahead - but my suggestion is you look a little deeper as I'm betting there are some other issues you have which are turnoffs to the opposite sex. I got in love with a girl that wasn't attracted to me, and I had her in my mind for years without barely any conversations. I lifted too, but avoided the lifting culture since it's filled with angry meat heads. And you can follow with I'm sorry for the lame line, i just think you're very beautiful and i would have kicked my butt if I missed the opportunity to talk with you and then you can take her next reaction and see if it will get anywhere.
It will take some work but try to start seeing what you like about yourself and try to talk to people a little more. By making your relationship a challenge, you are literally making it difficult to be with a person. I'm guessing the later, in which case this heart spitting is something you do to yourself. Someone at a biological level cannot even get the resources he desires and complains about his ability to do so. Therapists dredge the depths of an ocean of despair and clear out the boulders until you can pull anchor and move the fuck on.
I went for an interview this past Tuesday and started Thursday so was hired on the spot. I wasn't that good at it, and I honestly hated it, but after just a few days of doing this, I was pretty much completely over my anxiety and fear of approaching strangers. There is such a thing as Alpha males and or Beta males or in a girls eyes a Lover or Provider. Some might say without this there can be no sexual attraction. .
Just because you're shy doesn't mean you can't get an outgoing girl to like you, it just means that you have to do something about it. I don't care if someone's the life of the party - as long as he has a firm confidence in who he is and what he thinks when he's with me. Don't allow anyone to define who you are, but only you should be allowed to do that. About Ask for advice, share your favorite tips, and encourage others about anything dating. At The Modern Man, I teach guys how to attract women in more than 100 different ways.
This comes down to the difference between gender and biological sex. This answer has been a quest of self-enlightenment and self-learning. With time, all women come back from the dark side. And the quiet guy standing alone at the bar could come across as a lone ranger, stopping in for a drink before hopping back onto his steed. And we all experience different levels of shyness or social anxiety.
She is attracted and you move things forward to kissing, sex and a relationship. Surround yourself with like-minded people first, this is a pre-requisite. At work, smile and be more outgoing with customers, no matter how much it scares you. Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, or often. And honestly, in light of this new evidence I suppose I should start embracing my inner masculinity a little more, :p. And I suppose this makes historical sense because many people associate punk rock with negative connotation, a rejection of social standards makes people feel nervous, stupid and inferior perhaps rightfully? Never wish it were easier, or imagine everything is stacked against you.
Be nice to yourself, first of all. I was quite successful with one woman in particular. She is too militant, and the potential chosen man has the impression that he starts a business relationship rather than a romantic one. I would go to bed every night and feel like crying. You want to change that reckless, untamed man and you want to put a collar on him. I used to be a nice guy — way back when. I'm no doctor though, consult with one if this is a medical condition.