A wife wrote this letter to her husband to let him know how she felt over the years of infidelity and the emotional neglect she tolerated when they were together. He keeps insisting he answered all my questions which is a lie and claims he loves me but finds it so hard to talk to me about the affair. Yet you restrain yourself, knowing, in the end, you would be the one belittled, the hysterical woman pulling out the crazy once again. Worse, you are dragging another person into the mess that has been created - which ups the drama quotient to an even more complicated level. What makes it more painful is the fact that i have been very sick since july or let me say since his affair started. Where was all this coming from.
He Said Give it to the next chump. My husband came stumbling in and was shocked when he seen me and I was clueless and blind. I confronted him, first he refused, but finally told me the truth and apologized and promised never to repeat what happened! In November he left his phone with me while i was at the therapist, it was around 2 pm but he usually comes home around 3:30 pm. Get a paternity test and file for divorce. When the two minutes is up, put it aside.
We had so much in common and she knew me more than i knew myself. I ended the affair, have had no contact with that person and am committed to working out our marriage. Do not let them shed even a single tear of sadness and if you did, only tears of joy. He said he is sorry and knows the consequences of his action but everytime i treat him badly he shouts and runs to his ex wife or daughter for comfort and hides there…he breaks his promises ninstop he is just an immoral moron who keeps on breaking my heart. However, to finally let go of the event, would it not make more sense to find peace in the turmoil and look to feel gratitude for how he behaved? Even if you were a good spouse, no one is perfect.
At once i thought he was telling the truth because i never imagined that he will ever hurt me that bad regardless the situation i was going through. His mind body and soul. Fearing that just when you think you're making headway, this is going to rear it's ugly head again and ruin all the progress you have made, and are trying to make, in your life and relationship. It will likely take years to undo or at least bandage the damage that these two caused to myself and my family. Confronting the affair partner to make him or her feel guilty usually only encourages the affair partner to think that in the end, your spouse will leave you. I want to see him suffer as he made me suffer, I want the world to know what he has done to me and for his family to see him for what he is and not this perfect husband.
Not to diminish the powerless, vulnerable feeling of pain and confusion that comes from having the person you gave your and trust to cheat on you, but there are, however, natural consequences for the person who caused the pain. My ex-husband cheated on me also. What you are feeling is unique to you. Once your husband sees the change in you, he may come around as other husbands do, and want to go through the program himself. I broke things off and he left his poor wife for me.
He is doing this because you are letting him, as far as he can see. And slowly, you feel the love of your life slipping away. The betrayal by someone we trust and love is excruciating!! You won't be able to trust others to be loyal to you. My husband and I have had a rocky relationship, he is an alcoholic. I have two older kids and practically started all over again with my beautiful three year old.
Now my little girl is 1 and i am looking for a well paid job so i never have to ask him for anything n he will never be in a position to blackmail me. He also finally realized how much it hurt me after I wrote him a letter describing the pain. And he does not remember a thing. Will today be the day that something triggers my spouse to remember that I messed up before? We still continued that way but everytime after I kept the phone I started getting this very strange feeling. I want to know how to move on from this hurt if I stay in this marriage. Why do we women feel that we cannot live without these creatures who betray us? I was jealous and we was arguing and his attitude changed.
Anger may feel like a safer way to manage your pain, but it will slow your healing. I have to say it is not an easy task as he promised me he would never cheat on me. So you found out your husband has been cheating. It's very important to go into the conversation having a sense of what you want to say. I have read and read post after post, and actical after artical to see if there is something I am not doing or something that I am doing wrong. How to separate from a narcissist and come out as a winner If you are separating from a narcissist, do not harbor thoughts of revenge. I was literally a walking mess that is, on days that I could actually get out of bed to walk.